why don’t you ask for help?

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I sent a donation in to the Roundtable yesterday.  It wasn’t much, but Teddy, being the gentleman he is, quickly sent a note of thanks back to me.  Below is what I emailed to him in response. 

I know that it sounds like I’m scolding Teddy.  I don’t mean it that way . . . well, okay . . . I do mean to scold him a little bit.

When I was a troop commander, I had a sergeant who had received his promotion several months before, but was still receiving corporal’s pay.  (For those of you not familiar with army ranks, that’s a lower rank and lower pay.)  He was the kind of leader who turned over every stone to help his soldiers with administrative difficulties, but he wouldn’t ask for help with his own problems.  When I finally learned of it, It took me only about two hours over at the Finance office to get it fixed and to get him a check for his months of back pay. 

He was sheepishly grateful.  I, too, was of mixed emotions.  I was happy that, in a culture of “give me what I think I’m owed now,” he was too proud to ask for help, but on the other hand, it was a really easy thing to fix if he had just said there was a problem.

To make a long story short (too late), Teddy, why didn’t you tell us there was a problem?

Below is my repsonse to Teddy Bart:


Thanks for your note. 

By the way, why is your "Contribute to the Public Forum" button just a small link a full page down on the left side of the home page?  I know I should have contributed more and more often, but heck, you never told us that you needed it until it was too late. 

Why isn’t there a link to Bill Fletcher’s fundraising letter on your site?  I’ve put it on mine–and most of the area bloggers I’ve emailed it to have done so as well. 

And why is it that Fletch and only Fletch has put out a fund-raising net call?  You didn’t even put it on your Forum File letters–not even the one that announced you were leaving.

I don’t know whether to continue to feel sorry for you, or to be mad at you for not letting us, your loyal cadre of listeners, know that you had a problem that we could help to fix.

And on a related note, why don’t you show your appreciation to your loyal listeners by inviting one of them as a guest on the final show this Friday?  For that honor I nominate Truman.  And if you really want to get a last minute fundraiser going, why not get an auditorium for Friday’s show, sell tickets, and broadcast live in front of a studio audience?  Heck, why haven’t you done that before?

If nothing else good comes of this (what I expect to be a temporary) shutdown of the Roundtable, instead of relying upon a small cadre of influential underwriters, you may now be forced into getting more creative and more inclusive with both fundraising and format.  And for a PUBLIC FORUM, that can only be a good thing.


Bob Krumm

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2 Responses to “why don’t you ask for help?”

  1. Bob K Says:

    After reading this, I see that you could say I’ve moved from “denial” to “anger” as defined by Elisabeth Kubler Ross. Of course, one could argue that I jumped ahead in the series by resorting to “bargaining” in the form of my donation to the Public Forum.

    But don’t worry about there being a stage four. Depression has never been my thing. Instead I think I’ll deviate from Ms. Ross’ stages, and instead work with Bill Hobbs and others to resurrect a new and improved public forum. I think we’ll call that new stage, “resolve.”

  2. Truman Bean Says:

    Thanks for the kind mention.
    Fletcher is recommending that any donations be made from this point on after August 15.
    He is suggesting for all to sign up for the Forum File on the Public Forum’s website and send him the e-mail address of anyone that would like to donate time, monies and the like. (Bill Fletcher’s e-mail:fletcher@frcconsulting.biz)
    The Roundtable’s future does indeed look promising.